I like this statement and I hope that most students adhere to this quote. I know there have been a few times when dealing with unruly students in a class of 25+, that I have said things I probably shouldn't have. I might have even yelled at a class once or twice. I think sometimes the world of education forgets the demands that it puts on its teachers and the stress and tension this can create. That is why I pull a student aside or talk to a class the next day to explain why they were verbally disciplined. I want the students to know that I care about them and how important it is that they follow the rules so everyone can learn. I want all my students to enjoy my class and their time in school.
You yell at a student/class Paul? No way...lol. I’m just messing with you. We all have our moments and some of those we wish we wouldn’t have done. But I’m like you. I like to explain to the students too after something like that has happened. I have to remember that a lot of these kids are not being brought up like most of us teachers were and that we may be the only voice of reason they will here during the entire year.
Thinking back on my time in school I completely agree with the quote. There were certain teachers who had an energy and charisma about teaching that I still feel today.. most of their lessons have been lost but I will always remember the passion they had for teaching and the understanding they had in general about being a kid growing up. Kids are great at picking up on body language and are in tune with the way we feel. Its easy to forget how much they really watch us and pay attention but my 8th graders during lunch duty are the best at reminding me. "Coach Riggins, you wore that shirt yesterday." "Coach Riggins, you still mad about this morning in P.E.?"
Well said Coach Riggins. My most memorable teachers are the ones that truly cared. They made an impact because of the relationship they had with their students. I don't remember alot about first grade, but I could write on essay on how much I loved Betsy Brinkley. I believe we remember our elementary school teachers because of the time and attention that was spent on our relationship. I feel like we have to work even harder to build that relationship with our students because of our limited time with them. It is still just as important for a 13 year old to feel loved as it is a 6 year old.
Beth, I completely agree with your comment that a 13 year old should feel as loved as a 6 year old. They still need that relationship and love in the classroom. With this comes trust and security, which some of them are missing from their own homes.
There is no better way of saying it than how Ty just said it. When I reflect back on my childhood I think about the teachers that were loving and made learning fun. They only cared that you did your best and you wanted to do your best for them because you didn’t want to disappoint them. If you did act up or didn’t turn in an assignment they made it known that it was not ok but still made you feel loved.
Maya Angelou also said this and I have always found comfort in it. I have said things I shouldn't have or used a tone of voice that was not controlled. So in light of that, I try very hard to have relationships with these kids, I hope they feel loved and safe in my presence, even if I let the stressors of my life overcome my attitude from time to time. I have definitely found that the older and more experienced I get, the better I get with this. My patience is stronger, and even when it's not, I am wiser and can respond and not react. (as much ;) )
I would agree with all of these comments. As Ty said, it is amazing what students notice and the comments they make later about the things that catch their attention. Amanda's comment about letting "the stressors of my life overcome my attitude from time to time." I know I need to work on this, and I have tried, but I realize I still have work to do. This book has given me insights into things I can do differently in a lot of areas while interacting with my students in both the classroom setting and a more social setting. I have always known relationships were important, but this book is really driving that point home for me.
Most of our students starve for attention that they never get at home. All they hear is talk all the time. So if we approach them the same way in the classroom, they will zone us out. That’s why we’ve said relationships are the key to a successful school year. Once they know you truly care about them, the learning takes care of itself. I had a few situations this year where some students underwent some tough times at home. I took it upon myself to let them know I was thinking about them and that opened the door for greater things. Everyone is like this. Why do we choose which friends we like in the past and present? It’s because those are the people that have things in common and also make us feel good when we are around them. Just liking the same music as our students do breaks the ice. It doesn’t take much to let them know you are interested in the same things they are!
I think most of of us that recall a certain teacher or coach that made an impact on our lives.as Ty said we may not remember anything at all about the subject they were teaching but we will always remember how they made us feel as a person.
I agree that the actual standard based lessons that I was taught are sometimes lost, but I can remember very specific times in my education that I remember how a teacher made me feel. I even take into my adult life and can think of specific times at previous jobs when I have been made to feel that things were always my fault. Do I remember the specific things said to me, no, but I remember exactly how I felt. Even though this was years ago, I still have to work on not feeling this way and not apologize every time something goes wrong.
This again goes back to establishing relationships with your students and letting them know you believe in them. The most influential teachers and coaches I had growing up were those that I knew believed in me. I might not remember the content they taught me but I do remember how they made me feel. Even when they pushed me to do my best I knew they were pushing me because they believed in me.
That is not a hidden word in this book RELATIONSHIP! This book has brought caring back into focus. When you make a everlasting memory with a child, then the doors open to learning. I think everybody wants to be loved.
Yes, Roxie it is still all about the relationship. We have standards we are required to teach; but as we establish relationships with our students, we teach them a lot more than just academics! We all became educators because of how one or some teachers made us feel loved and important to them.
This quote is so true! As all have said, we all remember the teacher who noticed us-paid attention to us-just made us feel loved. This is definitely an inspiration for learning in the classroom. Most students will pay attention and want to do well for the teacher who loves and respects them. I had so many wonderful teachers, do I remember exact information they taught me-no-but I do remember how they made me feel in their classroom and out of the classroom.
This is one of my favorite quotes because it is simple but so very accurate. Students need to feel respected so they can learn how to show respect. We are seeing more and more students who are not seeing this outside of school so it is up to the teachers and staff to show them and teach them this. It is hard to do for many of our children because they don't know what to do at first but I do feel like most can learn by seeing and feeling. It is also important for the adults to remember this with other adults. We are all in this together so be respectful of other people and remember it is okay to agree to disagree.
I have told my 5th graders this for years. As we all know middle school grades tend to have drama. When dealing with drama in 5th grade I try to remind my students to always be the person that shows kindness. I try to share my personal experiences of middle school and how I still remember the people that showed kindness, but I also remember the people that made me feel bad about myself. I try to encourage, remind, and emphasize to these kids the importance of being the person that's kind. I tell the kids- you want to be the person that when remembered brings a smile to someone's face. You want to be remembered for kindness.
I love this! What a wonderful thing to teach our students. I was thinking only of the teacher-student relationship when reading this quote. But how applicable it is to the student-student relationship.
I have heard this quote before but it is always good to revisit it. This is something I need to print and put on my desk to remind myself throughout the day how important my non-verbal cues and tone of voice may effect my students. We can probably all think of wonderful teachers we had because they made us feel special. I know I had some amazing teachers throughout my time in MSSD but I don't remember a single standard based lesson they taught me. I remember laughter, joy, encouragement, connection, etc while being a part of their classrooms.
Most students look to teachers and coaches as role models so the way we treat them is something that many of them will never forget. When we treat students well and show interest in them they will remember that. This treatment has positive effects and the student may be more likely to remember what you said as well.
This quote is so important to me because I want more than anything to be a bright spot in my students’ day. I really try my hardest to stay optimistic and react to situations in a way that shows students you can be disappointed and upset without being disrespectful and disruptive. They will never learn to cope with their emotions if they have no good role model to show them how. So many students have experienced trauma involving parental figures screaming and yelling to express emotions. Many students don’t know there is another way.
Audra, you are that bright positive person for the students and the other teachers in the building. You are completely right in saying many of our kiddos don't know there is another way to be.
This quote is so true! I can remember teachers that made me feel special and took time to know me. I can also remember teachers that were very strict. (ones that I were afraid of) It is very important for us as teachers to show our students that we care and take an interest in them.
This quote is so true! I remember the teachers that I loved absolutely loved! I respected them and they respected me! Even though from time to time they had to tell me things I didn't want to hear, I didn't mind because I knew they truly cared about me.
I like this statement and I hope that most students adhere to this quote. I know there have been a few times when dealing with unruly students in a class of 25+, that I have said things I probably shouldn't have. I might have even yelled at a class once or twice. I think sometimes the world of education forgets the demands that it puts on its teachers and the stress and tension this can create. That is why I pull a student aside or talk to a class the next day to explain why they were verbally disciplined. I want the students to know that I care about them and how important it is that they follow the rules so everyone can learn. I want all my students to enjoy my class and their time in school.
ReplyDeleteYou yell at a student/class Paul? No way...lol. I’m just messing with you. We all have our moments and some of those we wish we wouldn’t have done. But I’m like you. I like to explain to the students too after something like that has happened. I have to remember that a lot of these kids are not being brought up like most of us teachers were and that we may be the only voice of reason they will here during the entire year.
DeleteThinking back on my time in school I completely agree with the quote. There were certain teachers who had an energy and charisma about teaching that I still feel today.. most of their lessons have been lost but I will always remember the passion they had for teaching and the understanding they had in general about being a kid growing up. Kids are great at picking up on body language and are in tune with the way we feel. Its easy to forget how much they really watch us and pay attention but my 8th graders during lunch duty are the best at reminding me. "Coach Riggins, you wore that shirt yesterday." "Coach Riggins, you still mad about this morning in P.E.?"
ReplyDeleteWell said Coach Riggins. My most memorable teachers are the ones that truly cared. They made an impact because of the relationship they had with their students. I don't remember alot about first grade, but I could write on essay on how much I loved Betsy Brinkley. I believe we remember our elementary school teachers because of the time and attention that was spent on our relationship. I feel like we have to work even harder to build that relationship with our students because of our limited time with them. It is still just as important for a 13 year old to feel loved as it is a 6 year old.
DeleteBeth, I completely agree with your comment that a 13 year old should feel as loved as a 6 year old. They still need that relationship and love in the classroom. With this comes trust and security, which some of them are missing from their own homes.
DeleteThere is no better way of saying it than how Ty just said it. When I reflect back on my childhood I think about the teachers that were loving and made learning fun. They only cared that you did your best and you wanted to do your best for them because you didn’t want to disappoint them. If you did act up or didn’t turn in an assignment they made it known that it was not ok but still made you feel loved.
ReplyDeleteMaya Angelou also said this and I have always found comfort in it. I have said things I shouldn't have or used a tone of voice that was not controlled. So in light of that, I try very hard to have relationships with these kids, I hope they feel loved and safe in my presence, even if I let the stressors of my life overcome my attitude from time to time. I have definitely found that the older and more experienced I get, the better I get with this. My patience is stronger, and even when it's not, I am wiser and can respond and not react. (as much ;) )
ReplyDeleteI would agree with all of these comments. As Ty said, it is amazing what students notice and the comments they make later about the things that catch their attention. Amanda's comment about letting "the stressors of my life overcome my attitude from time to time." I know I need to work on this, and I have tried, but I realize I still have work to do. This book has given me insights into things I can do differently in a lot of areas while interacting with my students in both the classroom setting and a more social setting. I have always known relationships were important, but this book is really driving that point home for me.
DeleteAmanda - I love this quote. I do agree that my patience has gotten better with having more experience. We LIVE and LEARN!
DeleteMost of our students starve for attention that they never get at home. All they hear is talk all the time. So if we approach them the same way in the classroom, they will zone us out. That’s why we’ve said relationships are the key to a successful school year. Once they know you truly care about them, the learning takes care of itself. I had a few situations this year where some students underwent some tough times at home. I took it upon myself to let them know I was thinking about them and that opened the door for greater things. Everyone is like this. Why do we choose which friends we like in the past and present? It’s because those are the people that have things in common and also make us feel good when we are around them. Just liking the same music as our students do breaks the ice. It doesn’t take much to let them know you are interested in the same things they are!
ReplyDeleteI think most of of us that recall a certain teacher or coach that made an impact on our lives.as Ty said we may not remember anything at all about the subject they were teaching but we will always remember how they made us feel as a person.
ReplyDeleteI agree that the actual standard based lessons that I was taught are sometimes lost, but I can remember very specific times in my education that I remember how a teacher made me feel. I even take into my adult life and can think of specific times at previous jobs when I have been made to feel that things were always my fault. Do I remember the specific things said to me, no, but I remember exactly how I felt. Even though this was years ago, I still have to work on not feeling this way and not apologize every time something goes wrong.
ReplyDeleteThis again goes back to establishing relationships with your students and letting them know you believe in them. The most influential teachers and coaches I had growing up were those that I knew believed in me. I might not remember the content they taught me but I do remember how they made me feel. Even when they pushed me to do my best I knew they were pushing me because they believed in me.
ReplyDeleteThat is not a hidden word in this book RELATIONSHIP! This book has brought caring back into focus. When you make a everlasting memory with a child, then the doors open to learning. I think everybody wants to be loved.
ReplyDeleteYes, Roxie it is still all about the relationship. We have standards we are required to teach; but as we establish relationships with our students, we teach them a lot more than just academics! We all became educators because of how one or some teachers made us feel loved and important to them.
DeleteThis quote is so true! As all have said, we all remember the teacher who noticed us-paid attention to us-just made us feel loved. This is definitely an inspiration for learning in the classroom. Most students will pay attention and want to do well for the teacher who loves and respects them. I had so many wonderful teachers, do I remember exact information they taught me-no-but I do remember how they made me feel in their classroom and out of the classroom.
ReplyDeleteThis is one of my favorite quotes because it is simple but so very accurate. Students need to feel respected so they can learn how to show respect. We are seeing more and more students who are not seeing this outside of school so it is up to the teachers and staff to show them and teach them this. It is hard to do for many of our children because they don't know what to do at first but I do feel like most can learn by seeing and feeling. It is also important for the adults to remember this with other adults. We are all in this together so be respectful of other people and remember it is okay to agree to disagree.
ReplyDeleteUnknown is me :)
DeleteI have told my 5th graders this for years. As we all know middle school grades tend to have drama. When dealing with drama in 5th grade I try to remind my students to always be the person that shows kindness. I try to share my personal experiences of middle school and how I still remember the people that showed kindness, but I also remember the people that made me feel bad about myself. I try to encourage, remind, and emphasize to these kids the importance of being the person that's kind. I tell the kids- you want to be the person that when remembered brings a smile to someone's face. You want to be remembered for kindness.
ReplyDeleteI love this! What a wonderful thing to teach our students. I was thinking only of the teacher-student relationship when reading this quote. But how applicable it is to the student-student relationship.
DeleteI have heard this quote before but it is always good to revisit it. This is something I need to print and put on my desk to remind myself throughout the day how important my non-verbal cues and tone of voice may effect my students. We can probably all think of wonderful teachers we had because they made us feel special. I know I had some amazing teachers throughout my time in MSSD but I don't remember a single standard based lesson they taught me. I remember laughter, joy, encouragement, connection, etc while being a part of their classrooms.
ReplyDeleteMost students look to teachers and coaches as role models so the way we treat them is something that many of them will never forget. When we treat students well and show interest in them they will remember that. This treatment has positive effects and the student may be more likely to remember what you said as well.
ReplyDeleteThis quote is so important to me because I want more than anything to be a bright spot in my students’ day. I really try my hardest to stay optimistic and react to situations in a way that shows students you can be disappointed and upset without being disrespectful and disruptive. They will never learn to cope with their emotions if they have no good role model to show them how. So many students have experienced trauma involving parental figures screaming and yelling to express emotions. Many students don’t know there is another way.
ReplyDeleteAudra, you are that bright positive person for the students and the other teachers in the building. You are completely right in saying many of our kiddos don't know there is another way to be.
DeleteThis quote is so true! I can remember teachers that made me feel special and took time to know me. I can also remember teachers that were very strict. (ones that I were afraid of) It is very important for us as teachers to show our students that we care and take an interest in them.
ReplyDeleteThis quote is so true! I remember the teachers that I loved absolutely loved! I respected them and they respected me! Even though from time to time they had to tell me things I didn't want to hear, I didn't mind because I knew they truly cared about me.
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